How Can I Be The Best Partner with Anxious Attachment

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Do you constantly wonder if you’re doing enough in your relationship? Do you feel responsible for managing your partner’s emotions so the relationship stays safe?

In Episode 22 of In The Messy Podcast, Jan explores how anxious attachment in women is often rooted in parentification — growing up believing love had to be earned by managing other people’s feelings.

When your nervous system learns early that safety comes from performing, fixing, and anticipating emotional reactions, that pattern can follow you into adult relationships. You may find yourself over-functioning, monitoring your partner’s moods, and asking: “How can I be a better partner?”