In this episode, we dive into anxious attachment—what it is, how it develops, and the patterns that keep it alive. Through relatable stories, research-based insight, and practical tools, you'll learn how to recognize anxious attachment in yourself, understand its roots, and take steps toward building more secure, fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, we unpack the truth about disorganized attachment—what it really means, how it forms, and how healing is possible. Through honest reflection, research-based insight, and practical strategies, you'll learn how to recognize this attachment style and take empowering steps toward secure, connected relationships.
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Jan takes a unique approach by guiding you through an experiential journey of self-awareness, self-compassion, and emotional resilience. Today, she leads you in a progressive muscle relaxation and visualization exercise. You’ll learn to release tension, explore your inner peace, and build emotional strength. Whether you’re managing stress or healing attachment wounds, this episode offers a calming, mindful experience you can return to again and again.

Anxious attachment style—a common relational pattern marked by fear of abandonment and a need for constant reassurance. Through a compassionate and insightful lens, Jan explores how anxious attachment develops, how it manifests in relationships, and most importantly, three powerful strategies to manage it: cultivating self-awareness, building emotional resilience, and developing secure habits. If you haven’t listened to Episodes 1 and 2 yet, make sure to check them out for a foundational understanding of attachment styles. Tune in for practical tips and reflections to help transform your anxious attachment style into healthier, more secure relationships.

Today’s episode is all about the anxious attachment style—a topic that might hit close to home for many. Anxious Attachment Style is a complex strategy people use when they feel their attachment needs are not being met. In our previous episode, we talked about how all humans have an inherent biological and emotional need to feel safe and secure. This is through ARE relationships (Accessible, Responsive, Engaged). We’ll explore its roots, how it shows up in relationships, and practical strategies for managing it. 

Welcome to In the Messy Podcast! I’m Jan, your host, and I’m beyond excited to kick off our very first episode. Today, we’re diving into the fascinating world of attachment styles—a topic that’s crucial for understanding how we connect with others, form relationships, and navigate the ups and downs of life. Whether you’re familiar with attachment theory or hearing about it for the first time, this episode is your crash course on the basics.

 We’ll explore how attachment theory, developed by the brilliant minds of John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth, helps explain the ways we seek safety and security in our relationships. From the warm, secure attachments that make us feel loved and protected to the more complex, insecure styles that can leave us feeling anxious or disconnected, you’ll gain insight into the powerful forces that shape our emotional worlds.

 But don’t worry—this isn’t just a dry lecture. We’re breaking it down in a way that’s easy to understand and directly relevant to your life. Whether you’re reflecting on your childhood, considering your current relationships, or just curious about human behavior, this episode is for you.

So, grab your headphones, get comfortable, and let’s dive into the messy, beautiful complexity of attachment styles. And hey, if you find this episode enlightening, don’t forget to hit subscribe and share it with someone who might need it. Let’s start this journey together!